July 14, 2005
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Age ain’t nothing but a number Part 2
I know in a previous blog I’ve mentioned that age is just a number. Lately, I’ve been reminded again just how true that is. Only in this instance I’m reminded that even people who you think would know better based on how old they are, really don’t know any better. In my mind, if you’re old enough to drink then you shouldn’t be having juvenile conversations that go something like this:
Person 1: I’m going to kick yo ass.
Person 2: No, I’m going to kick YO ass.
Person 1: Well, my friends are going to kick yo ass.
Person 2: I have more friends than you, they’re going to kick yo ass and your friends.
Person 1: You don’t have more friends than me.
Person 2: Yes I do.
Person 1: No you don’t.
Person 2: Yes I do.
The volume goes up, the insults gets more personal, the threats escalate. Eight year olds have these types of conversations, not 20+ & 30+ year olds. Yet these are the conversations of people who should just know better. Like what do you get out of “winning? What point is supposed to be made? Have you now proven your man/woman hood after you “win” a foolish argument that any 2nd grade child can get into?
I’m a slow learner… I think I must have been like 24 before I learned that life is too short for me to spend it hating on someone or something. And it’s definitely way too short to ever spend it hating on something completely insignificant.
So what age do you think someone should be before they just grow up?
Comments (29)
u cant put an age on that…so no age. as for me…ill grow up when the yelling ends.
so i guess that means i have mental age of….4. and u know what? im ok with that. =P
Nature sometimes play strange tricks. Or speaking in your terms: God sometimes play strange tricks. A 30-year-old man can have the mental capacity of a 4-year-old. A 9-year-old can be a child genius and think like a 40-year-old. There is no “set limit” or “determinate age.” While I agree with you that a “mature” person shouldnt be starting fights any 2nd grader can get into, it is the nature of a lot of humans. If human beings were able to discuss their differences peacefully, we wouldnt have wars…….
hmm, now thats the 1 billion dollar question. I know I’ll never be mature…I’m a toys’r us kid for life
i feel that people should grow up a couple of years after they start working. i mean, after college – i can give them a year or two of just fooling around, just chilling, living the post-college life. However, after a couple of years, you should start thinking about your career, get your act together, and be a grown up. so yeah – 23 or 24.
another thing i cant stand. people who still do drugs on a regular basis after the age of 25. i mean, c’mon – i know working is stressful and the quarter life crisis might be setting in, but there’s no need to turn to drugs. doing drugs at that age tells me you are still immature and want to live like a kid without any responsibilities. (notice, i said REGULAR basis).
maybe i just have an aversion to potheads because of people i’ve dated before. hehe.
depends…they should grow up right after they get their ass kicked the first time. then again, i agree with spacegrl. ugh…sounds like my ex.
i wouldnt know….i’ll let you know when i grow up
I guess the key word here is “should” You ask questions that have no definitive answer grandpa. I was more mature in my ways of thinking when I was 14 than I am now. When I was 14, I wouldn’t go out to play until I got all my work done. I’d take work (from my job) home so it gets done by the deadline (along w/my homework from school). I’d be sure to only go out during the summers b/c I didn’t have to worry about waking up early for school. I wouldn’t smoke or do drugs b/c I knew it was bad for me and I had to think about the future. It’s crazy grandpa. I don’t think like that at all now. Deadlines come and go. If I miss one, I’m sure there’ll be another one to come along soon. Hahahha.
what a weird question. everyone matures differently and at different times. it’s not a number you can arbitrarily decide and then impose upon everyone else.
whose to say that somebody HAS to grow up?
well, there’s a fine distinction b/w growing up… and growing up… i mean, take responsibility for your own actions and shiet = grown up, in my mind, but obviously other people feel otherwise… i take responsibility for my actions but i also am sooooo little kiddy still (i feel like it and i act like it in other ways)…. so u know? it depends on what kinda grown up you’re talking about…. for that situation…. i say…. you stop having “did too!” “did not!” conversations when you’re about 14. after that, it should just be in fun and not serious.
I think with age and experience we getting wiser and more mature. I think that the convo you put up was funny as hell though.
age is just a #. we’re all babies inside. =)
i think control is the key.
Dude, I feel 26 going on 40. Does that make me super-mature?
It’s different for everyone but I would say about a year or two after college. If you went that is… In that case, I would say after a couple of years in the professional world. You learn a lot from working for someone else. You learn to deal with a lot of shit you wish you could do something about but can’t, unless you want to face dire consequences. So yup, most people should grow up by the age of 21-25 but it’s not always the case.
men never grow up. ever.
some people just never grow up. and age is so much more than a number.. if it involves jail time :X
maybe early 20s.. but then i think everyone does it at their own pace. some do, some don’t…. ever. and that could be both good and bad.
im not gonna say that at age XX that you shoudl be mature and all grown up.
but i have to say that when i was young, like 15, i thought i was so mature and knew everything there is to know in life. then i got to college. the day i turned 18 i i thought i knew everything there is to know and realized that at age 15 i was still an immature kid.
then i turned 21. i looked back and kept hitting myself in the head realizing that at 18, i was still a kid.
im 25 now. and yes with age you obviously (are supposedf to ) become much wiser and mature. and i see that even at 21, i was still an immature little girl.
i wonder what ill be thinking at age 30?
It’s common knowledge that females mature at a faster rate than men. I find that as a rule of thumb, a woman’s true age is really +2 years what the calendar states, and a man is -2 years. This is part of the reason why most women prefer older men and most men prefer younger women.
You should grow up when your behavior affects the lives of those around you, if it doesn’t then you can be immature for the rest of your life if you want because no one will care.
isnt it? omg, that smack looked so painful
NEVER!!!! growing up is SO OVERRATED!
Good thing you learned it at 24! Some people live their whole life and never learn
Now you’re a much better person for it.
“Let it go!”
haha wow….crazy
yeah that is where i went…desserts galore!!!
i believe angelina wanted to produce only mini brads…in hopes of sharing them with the world…and to answer your question: age has no reflection on growing up. in actuality, they are still children but in disguise! like mystique from Xmen the movie.
it looks like a maybe. will let you know. hope you’re having a nice day. =)
Hey Kinsen!!
its dependent on education & life experience i’d say…
plus, rumour says guys r 4 yrs mentally younger than their physical age and women 2 yrs mentally older than their physical age – so genders of the same age r actually 6 yrs apart ‘mentally’??? ha!
hey…you started it.
and im goinna kick yo ass back to NY when you come down to LA.